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- Majjhima Nikaya 87
- Piyajatika Sutta
- From One Who Is Dear
- For free distribution only, as a gift of Dhamma
I have heard that on one occasion the Blessed One was staying near Savatthi
at Jeta's Grove, Anathapindika's monastery. Now at that time a
certain householder's dear & beloved little son, his only child, had died. Because of
his death, the father had no desire to work or to eat. He kept going to the cemetery and
crying out, "Where have you gone, my only little child? Where have you gone, my only
little child?"
Then he went to the Blessed One and, on arrival, having bowed down to him, sat to one
side. As he was sitting there the Blessed One said to him, "Householder, your
faculties are not those of one who is steady in his own mind. There is an aberration in
your faculties."
"Lord, how could there not be an aberration in my faculties? My dear & beloved
little son, my only child, has died. Because of his death, I have no desire to work or to
eat. I keep going to the cemetery and crying out, 'Where have you gone, my only little
child? Where have you gone, my only little child?'"
"That's the way it is, householder. That's the way it is -- for sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear."
"But lord, who would ever think that sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, &
despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear? Happiness
& joy are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear." So the
householder, not delighting in the Blessed One's words, rejecting the Blessed One's words,
got up from his seat and left.
Now at that time a large number of gamblers were playing dice not far from the Blessed
One. So the householder went to them and, on arrival, said to them, "Just now,
venerable sirs, I went to Gotama the contemplative and, on arrival, having bowed down to
him, sat to one side. As I was sitting there, Gotama the contemplative said to me,
'Householder, your faculties are not those of one who is steady in his own mind. There is
an aberration in your faculties.'
"When this was said, I said to him, 'Lord, how could there not be an aberration in
my faculties? My dear & beloved little son, my only child, has died. Because of his
death, I have no desire to work or to eat. I keep going to the cemetery and crying out,
"Where have you gone, my only little child? Where have you gone, my only little
child?"'
"'That's the way it is, householder. That's the way it is -- for sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear.'
"'But, lord, who would ever think that sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, &
despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear? Happiness
& joy are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear.' So, not
delighting in the words of Gotama the contemplative, rejecting them, I got up from my seat
and left."
"That's the way it is, householder [said the gamblers]. That's the way it is.
Happiness & joy are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is
dear."
So the householder left, thinking, "I agree with the gamblers."
Eventually, word of this conversation made its way into the king's inner chambers. Then
King Pasenadi Kosala addressed Queen Mallika,
"Mallika, your contemplative, Gotama, has said this: 'Sorrow, lamentation, pain,
distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is
dear.'"
"If that was said by the Blessed One, great king, then that's the way it is."
"No matter what Gotama the contemplative says, Mallika endorses it: 'If that was
said by the Blessed One, great king, then that's the way it is.' Just as, no matter what
his teacher says, a pupil endorses it: 'That's the way it is, teacher. That's the way is.'
In the same way, no matter what Gotama the contemplative says, Mallika endorses it: 'If
that was said by the Blessed One, great king, then that's the way it is.' Go away,
Mallika! Out of my sight!"
Then Queen Mallika called for the brahmin Nalijangha:
"Come, brahmin. Go to the Blessed One and, on arrival, showing reverence with your
head to his feet in my name, ask whether he is free from illness & affliction, is
carefree, strong, & living in comfort, saying: 'Queen Mallika, lord, shows reverence
with her head to your feet and asks whether you are free from illness & affliction,
are carefree, strong, & living in comfort.' And then say: 'Lord, did the Blessed One
say that sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear,
come springing from one who is dear?' Whatever the Blessed One says, remember it well and
tell it to me. For Tathagatas do not speak what is untrue."
"Yes, madam," the brahmin Nalijangha responded to Queen Mallika. Going to the
Blessed One, on arrival he exchanged courteous greetings with the Blessed One. After an
exchange of friendly greetings & courtesies, he sat to one side. As he was sitting
there he said to the Blessed One: "Master Gotama, Queen Mallika shows reverence with
her head to your feet and asks whether you are free from illness & affliction, are
carefree, strong, & living in comfort. And she says further: 'Lord, did the Blessed
One say that sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is
dear, come springing from one who is dear?'"
"That's the way it is, brahmin. That's the way it is. Sorrow, lamentation, pain,
distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is
dear. And it's through this sequence of events that it may be understood how sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear.
"Once in this same Savatthi there was a woman whose mother died. Owing to her
mother's death she went mad, out of her mind, and wandering from street to street,
crossroads to crossroads, would say, 'Have you seen my mother? Have you seen my mother?'
It's through this sequence of events that it may be understood how sorrow, lamentation,
pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who
is dear.
"Once in this same Savatthi there was a woman whose father died...whose brother
died...whose sister died...whose son died...whose daughter died...whose husband died.
Owing to his death she went mad, out of her mind, and wandering from street to street,
crossroads to crossroads, would say, 'Have you seen my husband? Have you seen my husband?'
It's through this sequence of events that it may be understood how sorrow, lamentation,
pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who
is dear.
"Once in this same Savatthi there was a man whose mother died. Owing to her death
he went mad, out of his mind, and wandering from street to street, crossroads to
crossroads, would say, 'Have you seen my mother? Have you seen my mother?' It's through
this sequence of events that it may be understood how sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress,
& despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear.
"Once in this same Savatthi there was a man whose father died...whose brother
died...whose sister died...whose son died...whose daughter died...whose wife died. Owing
to her death he went mad, out of his mind, and wandering from street to street, crossroads
to crossroads, would say, 'Have you seen my wife? Have you seen my wife?' It's through
this sequence of events that it may be understood how sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress,
& despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear.
"Once in this same Savatthi there was a wife who went to her relatives' home. Her
relatives, having separated her from her husband, wanted to give her to another against
her will. So she said to her husband, 'These relatives of mine, having separated us, want
to give me to another against my will,' whereupon he cut her in two and slashed himself
open, thinking, 'Dead we will be together.' It's through this sequence of events that it
may be understood how sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one
who is dear, come springing from one who is dear."
Then the brahmin Nalijangha, delighting in & approving of the Blessed One's words,
got up from his seat and went to Queen Mallika. On arrival, he told her all that had been
said in his conversation with the Blessed One.
Then Queen Mallika went to King Pasenadi Kosala and on arrival said to him, "What
do you think, great king: Is Princess Vajiri dear to you?"
"Yes, Mallika, Princess Vajiri is dear to me."
"And what do you think: would sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair
arise in you from any change & aberration in Princess Vajiri?"
"Mallika, any change & aberration in Princess Vajiri would mean an aberration
of my very life. How could sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair not arise in
me?"
"Great king, it was in connection with this that the Blessed One -- the One who
knows, the One who sees, worthy, & rightly self-awakened -- said, 'Sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear.'
"Now what do you think, great king: Is the noble Queen Vasabha
dear to you?...Is [your son] General Vidudabha dear to you?...Am I
dear to you?"
"Yes, Mallika, you are dear to me."
"And what do you think: would sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair
arise in you from any change & aberration in me?"
"Mallika, any change & aberration in you would mean an aberration of my very
life. How could sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair not arise in me?"
"Great king, it was in connection with this that the Blessed One -- the One who
knows, the One who sees, worthy, & rightly self-awakened -- said, 'Sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear.'
"Now what do you think, great king: Are [your subjects] the Kasis
& Kosalans dear to you?"
"Yes, Mallika, the Kasis & Kosalans are dear to me. It is through the might of
the Kasis & Kosalans that we use Kasi sandalwood and wear garlands, scents, &
ointments."
"And what do you think: would sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair
arise in you from any change & aberration in the Kasis & Kosalans?"
"Mallika, any change & aberration in the Kasis & Kosalans would mean an
aberration of my very life. How could sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair
not arise in me?"
"Great king, it was in connection with this that the Blessed One -- the One who
knows, the One who sees, worthy, & rightly self-awakened -- said, 'Sorrow,
lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing
from one who is dear.'"
"It's amazing, Mallika. It's astounding: how deeply the
Blessed One sees, having pierced through, as it were, with discernment. Come Mallika: Give
me the ablution water." Then King Pasenadi Kosala, rising from his seat and arranging
his upper robe over one shoulder, payed homage in the direction of the Blessed One with
his hands palm-to-palm in front of his heart, and exclaimed three times:
Homage to the Blessed One, worthy & rightly self-awakened!
Homage to the Blessed One, worthy & rightly self-awakened!
Homage to the Blessed One, worthy & rightly self-awakened!
See also: AN V.49; Ud II.7; Ud
VIII.8.